Tuesday, March 15, 2011


Paulo Coelho is one of my favorite authors..The Alchemist, is one of the key ingredients to why i am and who i am today...

From his blog, he speaks a lot of soul mates, love, relationships..the Spirit.

Below are a few points of views..on marriage from his readers.

Stella: I am condemned to love you, and that is my salvation. I shall have to live for ever in the shadow of your eyes, accept the fact that everything your hand touches arouses the best in me. All that I know is your love, nothing else interests me.
Prajakta: Two people join together, love provokes more love. Two imperfect beings unite, and perfection becomes possible.
Dasha: The ceremony of marriage is just a symbol, and we could live very well without all the pressures that it implies. Love is free and wild, and the more we feel this state of freedom, the more aware we are of the joy that it means to live with another person we have chosen, rather than with someone that society has obliged us to be with.
Leila: In my religion (Islam), marriage amounts to many ways of worshipping God. I cannot understand religions that preach celibacy and asceticism, which severs human beings from their natural condition.
Nadia: I need love. I need someone to tell me that he is in love with me, and that’s all. I have no need for a white dress and a church blessing, but I seem to be the only one among my friends to think this way. They are all afraid of loneliness; if I don’t find someone who understands me deeply, what’s wrong about being alone? But the pressure is so great that I think that I am gong to have to accept it sooner or later, or else my self-esteem will be seriously damaged.
Liz: I’m going to get married in two weeks, and I’ve been talking compulsively about it. What conclusion have I reached? With or without a formal ceremony, a couple will always be what they can be. The only thing that changes is that we will have to disguise our fighting with one another.
Neel P.: I believe that a couple that puts God at the center of their lives will also know where to put marriage where it belongs. Being with another person doesn’t mean making a god of them, this should be seen as part of the divine blessings that affect our lives every day – like love, sex, music, solitude, and even suffering. Marriage is by no means destiny, but rather part of our path, and I am sure that God uses this union for a reason that goes far beyond perpetuating the species.

what does marriage mean to you?  is it a bond society has created so our government can govern us in a more organized fashion? what does the bond between two people joining together, promising their devotion for the rest of their lives...mean?  take away the documents, the tax write offs, the ideal of being happy and content forever and ever...

monogamy is a choice.  it is always a choice.  something special and magical that cannot necessarily be defined by any human language takes us to that choice.  
chemistry between two people, honing it, protecting the sacredness of it...gratitude for the bond.  that is more "marriage" than a ring and a marriage license to sign and please.  

the word marriage, according to the english dictionary literarily means :


the social institution under which a man and woman establish their decision to live as husband and wife by legal commitments, religious ceremonies, etc.
a similar institution involving partners of the same gender: gay marriage.
the state, condition, or relationship of being married;wedlock: a happy marriage.
the legal or religious ceremony that formalizes the decisionof two people to live as a married couple, including theaccompanying social festivities: to officiate at a marriage.
a relationship in which two people have pledged themselvesto each other in the manner of a husband and wife, withoutlegal sanction: trial marriage.
any close or intimate association or union: the marriage ofwords and music in a hit song.
a formal agreement between two companies or enterprisesto combine operations, resources, etc., for mutual benefit;merger.
a blending or matching of different elements or components:The new lipstick is a beautiful marriage of fragrance andtexture.
Cards a meld of the king and queen of a suit, as inpinochle. Compare royal marriage.
a piece of antique furniture assembled from components oftwo or more authentic pieces.
Obsolete the formal declaration or contract by which act aman and a woman join in wedlock

The first words to describe marriage are "social institution" and "legal commitments".

i understand those are realities in todays world, but i think divorce is much too common because the purity of love is disillusioned by the ideals of what love should be, images engrained by what the world says is appropriate.

trust in in your intuition, your gut, for those who are not into believing intuition...and you realize, love cannot be lied to if it is true, and what is true... can never be hidden nor denied. no matter how hard you try.

just food for thought.